Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet dashuri-urrejtje nuk b\u00ebjn\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtim. Ndoshta, p\u00ebrball\u00eb opinionit publik, askush nuk do t\u00eb pranoj\u00eb se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia e tyre bazohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqindje t\u00eb caktuar dashurie dhe nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqindje t\u00eb barabart\u00eb urrejtjeje. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye dhe mbi t\u00eb gjitha fal\u00eb shfaqjes s\u00eb rrjeteve sociale, pjesa d\u00ebrrmuese e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve duken idilike. Megjithat\u00eb, n\u00ebn mask\u00ebn e lumturis\u00eb, shpesh fshihet nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb konfliktuale dashurie-urrejtjeje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Por \u00e7far\u00eb fshihet pas k\u00ebtyre llojeve t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve dashuri-urrejtje? Pse mund t\u2019i p\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb k\u00ebto ndjenja konfliktuale?
N\u00eb fillim t\u00eb lidhjes zakonisht ka momente idilike. Mir\u00ebpo, me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, nj\u00ebri nga dy an\u00ebtar\u00ebt fillon, p.sh., t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor\u00eb ironi, sarkaz\u00ebm, aludime etj. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, pak nga pak lind nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb kontradikte te \u00e7ifti q\u00eb merr k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj trajtimi. Nga nj\u00ebra an\u00eb, ekziston nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb dashurie, por nga ana tjet\u00ebr, shfaqet nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr zem\u00ebrimi, madje edhe urrejtjeje. N\u00eb shum\u00eb raste, \u00e7ifti nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb dijeni t\u00eb arsyes s\u00eb shfaqjes s\u00eb k\u00ebsaj dashurie-urrejtjeje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet dashuri-urrejtje fillojn\u00eb gradualisht. An\u00ebtari i trajtuar m\u00eb keq mund t\u00eb filloj\u00eb gjithashtu t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtat\u00eb stilin e reagimit t\u00eb tij ose t\u00eb saj me at\u00eb t\u00eb partnerit t\u00eb tij ose t\u00eb saj. Kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb nj\u00ebrit prej tyre i mungon respekti, por t\u00eb dy p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb duke e trajtuar nj\u00ebri-tjetrin n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb k\u00ebqija. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie jofunksionale. \u00cbsht\u00eb koha p\u00ebr t\u00eb analizuar at\u00eb q\u00eb po ndodh. Pyetja \u00ebsht\u00eb, nga vjen dashuria n\u00ebse ka edhe urrejtje?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dashuria dhe urrejtja n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn hap\u00ebsir\u00eb
N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje t\u00eb pyetjes s\u00eb m\u00ebparshme, dashuria mund t\u00eb lind\u00eb nga kujtimi i momenteve t\u00eb para ideale t\u00eb \u00e7iftit. \u201cGjith\u00e7ka ishte shum\u00eb e bukur m\u00eb par\u00eb, jam i sigurt se do t\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebri e nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb,\u201d mendojn\u00eb shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, ajo q\u00eb ruan shum\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie dashuri-urrejtje nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb dashuria, por var\u00ebsia. Dashuria fillestare ia ka l\u00ebn\u00eb vendin var\u00ebsis\u00eb emocionale, lidhjes me tjetrin. Kjo var\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb arsyeja q\u00eb e b\u00ebn t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, n\u00eb nj\u00eb mas\u00eb t\u00eb madhe, p\u00ebrfundimin e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve dashuri-urrejtje. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, shkaku i pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb zakonisht i atribuohet tjetrit: \u201cnuk je ai q\u00eb ishe, nuk m\u00eb b\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur \u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb shohim dhe t\u00eb marrim parasysh \u201cdefektet\u201d e tyre , ato aspekte q\u00eb na b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb ndihemi m\u00eb pak. Pak nga pak, disa nga sjelljet e tyre fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb na shqet\u00ebsojn\u00eb, edhe n\u00ebse nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebmshme p\u00ebr ne. Shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz pyesin veten: \u201c N\u00ebse partneri im nuk m\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb asgj\u00eb, pse nuk mund ta duroj? Pse m\u00eb shqet\u00ebson gjith\u00e7ka rreth .<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\/Burimi Psikologjia<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet dashuri-urrejtje nuk b\u00ebjn\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtim. Ndoshta, p\u00ebrball\u00eb opinionit publik, askush nuk do t\u00eb pranoj\u00eb se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia e tyre bazohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqindje t\u00eb caktuar dashurie dhe nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqindje t\u00eb barabart\u00eb urrejtjeje. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye dhe mbi t\u00eb gjitha fal\u00eb shfaqjes s\u00eb rrjeteve sociale, pjesa d\u00ebrrmuese e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve duken idilike. Megjithat\u00eb, n\u00ebn mask\u00ebn e lumturis\u00eb, shpesh […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":40404,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-40405","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lifestyle"},"yoast_head":"\n