Edhe pse pabesia mund t\u00eb rrezikoj\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb ende e zakonshme. Nj\u00eb p\u00ebrmbledhje e hulumtimeve mbi pabesin\u00eb zbuloi se rreth 20 deri n\u00eb 25% e \u00e7ifteve t\u00eb martuara tradhtojn\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00eb her\u00eb gjat\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies s\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I nj\u00ebjti vler\u00ebsim diskuton ndryshimet me kalimin e koh\u00ebs n\u00eb at\u00eb se kush tradhton, pasi grat\u00eb tani po \u201ce mbyllin hendekun\u201d dhe shkalla e tyre e pabesis\u00eb po i afrohet asaj t\u00eb burrave.
A jan\u00eb arsyet e grave p\u00ebr t\u00eb tradhtuar t\u00eb ndryshme nga ato t\u00eb burrave? Nj\u00eb studim m\u00eb i koh\u00ebve t\u00eb fundit, i botuar n\u00eb Evolution and Human Behavior, k\u00ebrkoi t\u00eb m\u00ebsonte pse grat\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb, duke eksploruar p\u00ebrgjigjet e 116 grave jobesnike (dhe 138 burrave jobesnik\u00eb) nga vende t\u00eb ndryshme. Dr. Theresa E. DiDonato, Ph.D., psikologe dhe profesoresh\u00eb e psikologjis\u00eb n\u00eb Universitetin Loyola t\u00eb Maryland, komenton mbi rezultatet e studimit n\u00eb nj\u00eb artikull n\u00eb Psychology Today. Sipas tyre, p\u00ebrgjigjet e grave p\u00ebrfshinin arsyet e m\u00ebposhtme:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ato nuk ishin t\u00eb lumtura n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie (64.66%), duke reflektuar nj\u00eb situat\u00eb komplekse, duke pasur dy her\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb tradhtonin krahasuar me burrat.
Ata e shohin partnerin e tyre duke u distancuar (22.41%). Grat\u00eb ndiejn\u00eb sikur partneri i tyre nuk po investon n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e tyre.
Ato duan hakmarrje (15.52%), ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00ebse partneri i tyre ka qen\u00eb i pari jobesnik.
Ato jan\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitura ose k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb re (12.93%).
Ato jan\u00eb t\u00eb pak\u00ebnaqura seksualisht (8.62%).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ato k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb afirmim (6.90%), ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00ebse partneri i tyre nuk ua ofron at\u00eb.
Ato e duan ose e d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb t\u00eb dashurin\/t\u00eb dashur\u00ebn e tyre (6.89%).
Ato e din\u00eb se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnis se tyre po i vjen fundi (6.03%) dhe se pabesia mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb goditja p\u00ebrfundimtare.
Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia e tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb distanc\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb (3.45%). Kur \u00e7iftet jetojn\u00eb n\u00eb vende t\u00eb ndryshme, ata jan\u00eb m\u00eb pak t\u00eb integruar n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e nj\u00ebri-tjetrit, duke l\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr pabesi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Edhe pse k\u00ebto arsye ishin m\u00eb t\u00eb zakonshmet n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb most\u00ebr grash, lista nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e plot\u00eb. S\u00eb bashku me arsyet m\u00eb pak t\u00eb cituara q\u00eb dol\u00ebn n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb studim (p.sh., problemet e sh\u00ebndetit mendor, stresi), njer\u00ebzit mund t\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr arsye q\u00eb jan\u00eb unike p\u00ebr situat\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies.
Midis shum\u00eb shpjegimeve p\u00ebr pabesin\u00eb, del n\u00eb pah nj\u00eb model mbizot\u00ebrues: Pabesia duket se lidhet me munges\u00ebn e k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb nevojave. Kur nevojat p\u00ebr p\u00ebrkat\u00ebsi dhe lidhje, nevojat seksuale, nevojat p\u00ebr vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsim ose nevojat sociale nuk plot\u00ebsohen, grat\u00eb mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb rrezik m\u00eb t\u00eb madh p\u00ebr t\u2019u angazhuar n\u00eb pabesi, shpjegon eksperti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb mungesa e k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb automatikisht do t\u00eb thot\u00eb pabesi. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, ai p\u00ebrfundon se kjo sugjeron r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e shqyrtimit t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushjes s\u00eb nevojave t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithshme t\u00eb grave si nj\u00eb faktor rreziku p\u00ebr pabesin\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Edhe pse pabesia mund t\u00eb rrezikoj\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb ende e zakonshme. Nj\u00eb p\u00ebrmbledhje e hulumtimeve mbi pabesin\u00eb zbuloi se rreth 20 deri n\u00eb 25% e \u00e7ifteve t\u00eb martuara tradhtojn\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00eb her\u00eb gjat\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies s\u00eb tyre. I nj\u00ebjti vler\u00ebsim diskuton ndryshimet me kalimin e koh\u00ebs n\u00eb at\u00eb se kush tradhton, pasi grat\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":58618,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-58619","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lifestyle"},"yoast_head":"\n