Kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet, shpesh p\u00ebrqendrohemi n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb thuh+et. Nj\u00eb grindje, nj\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb dua\u201d, nj\u00eb v\u00ebrejtje. Megjithat\u00eb, si\u00e7 shpjegon psikologu amerikan Mark Travers, Ph.D., n\u00eb nj\u00eb artikull n\u00eb Forbes, klima e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb emocionale e nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje formohet nga pauzat dhe, m\u00eb konkretisht, nga heshtjet e rrezikshme .<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nd\u00ebrsa heshtja mund t\u00eb sjell\u00eb qet\u00ebsi, kur shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb distanc\u00eb ose dor\u00ebzim , ajo ka aft\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u2019i largoj\u00eb njer\u00ebzit pa e kuptuar ata. Cilat jan\u00eb dy zakonet \u201ce qeta\u201d q\u00eb, sipas Travers, d\u00ebmtojn\u00eb lidhjen emocionale?
Heshtja e shk\u00ebputjes emocionale
Kjo heshtje ndodh kur dikush ndalon s\u00eb shprehuri veten sepse nuk ndihet m\u00eb i sigurt n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie . Kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb heshtje e qet\u00eb, por nj\u00eb heshtje q\u00eb mbron nga refuzimi, kritika ose mund\u00ebsia e nj\u00eb grindjeje . Si\u00e7 shpjegon Dr. Travers, kjo t\u00ebrheqje ndodh shpesh kur p\u00ebrpjekjet e m\u00ebparshme p\u00ebr komunikim nuk kan\u00eb gjetur terren pjellor. Dikush mund t\u00eb duket i qet\u00eb nga jasht\u00eb, por n\u00eb realitet t\u00eb jet\u00eb vigjilent, pa e kuptuar. Ky mekaniz\u00ebm shfaqet gjithashtu n\u00eb nj\u00eb studim n\u00eb Journal of Anxiety Disorders (2014) , n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin pjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebsit e ekspozuar ndaj stresit t\u00eb leht\u00eb social treguan shenja fiziologjike t\u00eb ankthit, t\u00eb tilla si zgjerimi i beb\u00ebzave t\u00eb syrit dhe rritja e ndjekjes vizuale, pa raportuar rritje t\u00eb ankthit . N\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb dikush mund t\u00eb mbyllet n\u00eb vetvete pa b\u00ebrtitur apo reagime dramatike, thjesht duke u distancuar emocionalisht.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, kjo heshtje rritet. Individi shmang cenueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb, shtyp nevojat e veta dhe \u201cminimizon\u201d pranin\u00eb e vet n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie. Sidomos n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet me karakteristika \u201cankthioze\u201d dhe \u201cshmang\u00ebse\u201d , nj\u00ebri partner k\u00ebrkon af\u00ebrsi m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe, nd\u00ebrsa tjetri t\u00ebrhiqet p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbrojtur veten, duke \u00e7uar n\u00eb nj\u00eb rreth vicioz t\u00eb tjet\u00ebrsimit dhe keqkuptimeve . Njohja e k\u00ebtij modeli \u00ebsht\u00eb hapi i par\u00eb p\u00ebr ta thyer at\u00eb. Mendoni p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb keni frik\u00eb t\u00eb ndani ose at\u00eb q\u00eb shmangni ta shprehni dhe pse.
\u201cMos pyet, mos trego\u201d \u2013 Trendi i ri q\u00eb rip\u00ebrcakton kufijt\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet moderne
Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet: Tre Arsye Serioze Pse \u00c7iftet Grinden \u2013 Si ta Zgjidhim<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Heshtja e shk\u00ebputjes psikologjike
Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb forma m\u00eb \u201ce qet\u00eb\u201d, por ndoshta edhe m\u00eb e rrezikshme e heqjes . Kur dikush ndalon s\u00eb konfliktuari, por edhe s\u00eb shpresuari, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb rutin\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme pa substanc\u00eb . Sht\u00ebpia pastrohet, pazaret b\u00ebhen, bisedat vazhdojn\u00eb, por ndjesia \u00ebsht\u00eb zhdukur. Nuk ka diskutime kuptimplote apo interes t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Si\u00e7 shpjegon Dr. Travers, kjo situat\u00eb i ngjan fenomenit t\u00eb \u201cshk\u00ebputjes\u201d , ku p\u00ebrvojat emocionale pushojn\u00eb s\u00eb qeni t\u00eb lidhura me reagimet tona . N\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, kjo p\u00ebrkthehet n\u00eb shk\u00ebputje: Ju ndaloni s\u00eb prituri q\u00eb personi tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb ose t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nuk ka m\u00eb pritje, eksitim apo frik\u00eb . Ekziston thjesht bashk\u00ebjetes\u00eb pa ndonj\u00eb shk\u00ebmbim kuptimplot\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb faza e par\u00eb e distanc\u00ebs emocionale, e cila, si\u00e7 thot\u00eb Dr. Travers, t\u00eb \u00e7on drejt fundit, jo me nj\u00eb shp\u00ebrthim, por me heshtje. N\u00ebse kjo ju ting\u00ebllon e njohur, mos nxitoni t\u00eb krijoni tension vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb \u201cthyer\u201d heshtjen. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, pyeteni veten: Kur ishte hera e fundit q\u00eb u kujdes\u00ebt v\u00ebrtet p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin? Kur fillove t\u2019i thuash vetes se nuk ka m\u00eb kuptim?
Pse heshtja \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb shurdhuese se zhurma?
Heshtja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb e keqe. Mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb i but\u00eb dhe i qet\u00eb, nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb intimiteti . Megjithat\u00eb, kur p\u00ebrdoret si mburoj\u00eb ose si dor\u00ebheqje, b\u00ebhet \u201cjo\u201d-ja m\u00eb e fort\u00eb q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb kurr\u00eb. Pra, mos e injoroni. M\u00ebso ta d\u00ebgjosh me instinktet e tua, jo vet\u00ebm me vesh\u00ebt e tu. \u201cHeshtjet m\u00eb t\u00eb rrezikshme jan\u00eb ato q\u00eb nuk njihen, q\u00eb vijn\u00eb aq natyrsh\u00ebm, sa harrojm\u00eb se nuk kan\u00eb qen\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb aty\u201d, p\u00ebrfundon Dr. Travers.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet, shpesh p\u00ebrqendrohemi n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb thuh+et. Nj\u00eb grindje, nj\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb dua\u201d, nj\u00eb v\u00ebrejtje. Megjithat\u00eb, si\u00e7 shpjegon psikologu amerikan Mark Travers, Ph.D., n\u00eb nj\u00eb artikull n\u00eb Forbes, klima e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb emocionale e nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje formohet nga pauzat dhe, m\u00eb konkretisht, nga heshtjet e rrezikshme . Nd\u00ebrsa heshtja mund t\u00eb sjell\u00eb qet\u00ebsi, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":59066,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-59067","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lifestyle"},"yoast_head":"\n