N\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb ku marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrlikuara se kurr\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb, koncepti i \u201csituat\u00ebs\u201d, nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie q\u00eb duket si lidhje, por nuk ka p\u00ebrkushtim, \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb i p\u00ebrhapur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E quajtur k\u00ebshtu nga Gjenerata Z, por e p\u00ebrjetuar nga t\u00eb gjitha grupmoshat, kjo form\u00eb lidhjeje krijon iluzionin e dashuris\u00eb, por shpesh mbetet bosh.
\u00c7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb \u201csituat\u00eb\u201d?
Si\u00e7 shpjegon Dr. Alicia M. Walker, profesoresh\u00eb e sociologjis\u00eb n\u00eb Universitetin Shtet\u00ebror t\u00eb Misurit, \u201csituatat\u201d p\u00ebrfshijn\u00eb intimitet emocional dhe fizik, koh\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar bashk\u00eb, por asnj\u00eb qart\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen. Ato mund t\u00eb duken si lidhje t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta, por u mungon bazamenti i nj\u00eb angazhimi t\u00eb nd\u00ebrsjell\u00eb.
Pse p\u00ebrfundojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb situat\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb?
Shpesh \u00ebsht\u00eb frika \u2013 nga vetmia, nga refuzimi, apo nga humbja e asaj pak dashurie q\u00eb kemi \u2013 q\u00eb na mban aty. Ndodh q\u00eb nj\u00ebra pal\u00eb shpreson n\u00eb nj\u00eb zhvillim, nd\u00ebrsa pala tjet\u00ebr nuk ka q\u00ebllim t\u00eb l\u00ebviz\u00eb p\u00ebrtej kufijve t\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje t\u00eb paqart\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Disa njer\u00ebz i p\u00ebrqafojn\u00eb k\u00ebto lloj marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniesh n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijshme. P\u00ebr shembull, grat\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb mesme mund t\u2019i shohin \u201csituatat\u201d si nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ruajtur pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb e tyre emocionale, duke shmangur pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb tradicionale t\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhjeje t\u00eb strukturuar.
Kur situata b\u00ebhet problematike
Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb mund t\u00eb funksionoj\u00eb si nj\u00eb zgjidhje e p\u00ebrkohshme, nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie pa drejtim mund t\u00eb shkaktoj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb d\u00ebme se sa mir\u00eb. Mungesa e p\u00ebrkushtimit \u00e7on n\u00eb pasiguri, ndjesi vetmie dhe frustrimi. N\u00ebse nevojat tuaja emocionale nuk plot\u00ebsohen, ose n\u00ebse jeni gjithmon\u00eb ju q\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb mbani marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien gjall\u00eb \u2013 \u00ebsht\u00eb koha p\u00ebr reflektim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cMos lejoni q\u00eb frika e vetmis\u00eb t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb pranoni m\u00eb pak se \u00e7\u2019meritoni,\u201d \u2013 thekson Dr. Walker.
Shenjat q\u00eb tregojn\u00eb se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia nuk ka t\u00eb ardhme:
Partneri nuk interesohet p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn tuaj.
Ndiheni t\u00eb pasigurt p\u00ebr vendin q\u00eb zini n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij\/saj.
Nuk ka plane t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen.
Ndjeni se e gjitha varet vet\u00ebm nga p\u00ebrpjekjet tuaja.
Ndiheni t\u00eb frustruar, t\u00eb l\u00ebnduar, por ende shpresoni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Si t\u00eb dilni nga nj\u00eb situat\u00eb e till\u00eb?
\u00c7el\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb qart\u00ebsia me veten. Pranoni se nuk jeni aty ku d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb jeni. Mos prisni q\u00eb gj\u00ebrat t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb magjike. N\u00ebse partneri nuk po b\u00ebn t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn p\u00ebrpjekje, largohuni. \u00cbsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb vuani realitetin p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebr, sesa t\u00eb vuani \u00ebndrr\u00ebn p\u00ebr nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb.
Zgjidhni marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie q\u00eb ushqejn\u00eb, jo q\u00eb konsumojn\u00eb.
Kur t\u00eb jeni gati, zgjidhni nj\u00eb lidhje ku mund t\u00eb flisni lirsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr nevojat tuaja, t\u00eb ndiheni t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar dhe t\u00eb respektoheni. Lidhjet e sh\u00ebndetshme nuk k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb hamend\u00ebsim \u2013 ato ofrojn\u00eb siguri, respekt dhe p\u00ebrkushtim.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
N\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb ku marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrlikuara se kurr\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb, koncepti i \u201csituat\u00ebs\u201d, nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie q\u00eb duket si lidhje, por nuk ka p\u00ebrkushtim, \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb i p\u00ebrhapur. E quajtur k\u00ebshtu nga Gjenerata Z, por e p\u00ebrjetuar nga t\u00eb gjitha grupmoshat, kjo form\u00eb lidhjeje krijon iluzionin e dashuris\u00eb, por shpesh […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":60113,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-60114","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lifestyle"},"yoast_head":"\n