\u00cbsht\u00eb shpesh e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta kuptosh kur je viktim\u00eb e manipulimit emocional, sidomos kur ndodh brenda nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb sepse ndodh pik\u00ebrisht me ty. Por kur je spektator apo v\u00ebzhgues i situat\u00ebs, shenjat jan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb dukshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00ebse po e v\u00eb n\u00eb pik\u00ebpyetje marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien t\u00ebnde dhe dyshon p\u00ebr manipulim, m\u00eb posht\u00eb jan\u00eb 10 shenja t\u00eb qarta q\u00eb, sipas ekspertes, tregojn\u00eb se po ndodh di\u00e7ka e till\u00eb:
1. Flet si aktor i nj\u00eb drame televizive
Nj\u00eb partner manipulues shpesh p\u00ebrdor fraza dramatike si: \u201cNga t\u00eb gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzit, mendova se ti do t\u00eb m\u00eb kuptoje\u201d ose \u201cTi je i vetmi njeri q\u00eb kam dashur ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb v\u00ebrtet.\u201d Kur k\u00ebto shoq\u00ebrohen me lot dhe emocionaliz\u00ebm, p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshosh mendim, at\u00ebher\u00eb me shum\u00eb gjas\u00eb b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr manipulim emocional.
2. Ka gjithmon\u00eb lot\u00ebt gati<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u00eb gjith\u00eb mund t\u00eb preken emocionalisht gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb debati, por n\u00ebse partneri yt qan shpesh n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb papritur apo t\u00eb sforcuar, ndoshta po p\u00ebrdor lot\u00ebt si mjet ndikimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb ndihesh fajtor apo p\u00ebr t\u00eb fituar kontrollin mbi situat\u00ebn.
3. T\u00eb largon nga njer\u00ebzit dhe ambientet q\u00eb do
Manipuluesit emocional\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb t\u00eb shk\u00ebpusin nga rrethi yt i ngusht\u00eb \u2013 familja, miqt\u00eb apo ambientet q\u00eb t\u00eb japin ndjesi rehatie. Pyes veten: Sa shpesh dilni n\u00eb vendet q\u00eb ti do dhe ndihesh mir\u00eb? Apo gjith\u00e7ka rrotullohet rreth preferencave t\u00eb partnerit t\u00ebnd? N\u00ebse nuk ndihesh m\u00eb n\u00eb kontroll t\u00eb jet\u00ebs t\u00ebnde, ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb sinjal i qart\u00eb alarmi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. Pret q\u00eb t\u00eb reagosh vet\u00ebm n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar
N\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme, ekziston mir\u00ebkuptimi dhe pranimi i ndryshimeve. Por n\u00ebse ndjen q\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb lloj sjelljeje nga ana jote \u00ebsht\u00eb e pranueshme p\u00ebr partnerin \u2013 ajo q\u00eb e k\u00ebnaq at\u00eb \u2013 at\u00ebher\u00eb ndoshta po humbet vetveten p\u00ebr t\u00eb ruajtur \u201cqet\u00ebsin\u00eb\u201d.
5. K\u00ebrkon vazhdimisht prova t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb
Fraza si \u201cPo t\u00eb m\u00eb doje, do ta b\u00ebje k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebr mua\u201d apo \u201cN\u00ebse me do v\u00ebrtet, do ma blije k\u00ebt\u00eb\u201d jan\u00eb sinjale t\u00eb qarta manipulimi. Dashuria e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nuk matet me favore apo dhurata. Kjo m\u00ebnyr\u00eb sjelljeje p\u00ebrdor fajin si lev\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kontrolluar vendimet e tua.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
6. Reagon keq kur d\u00ebgjon \u201cjo\u201d
N\u00ebse \u00e7do her\u00eb q\u00eb thua \u201cjo\u201d, nis nj\u00eb debat apo acarim, kjo tregon munges\u00eb respekti ndaj kufijve t\u00eb tu. Si\u00e7 thekson edhe Carey, \u201cDashuria dhe respekti nuk tregohen vet\u00ebm duke i b\u00ebr\u00eb qejfin tjetrit. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet nd\u00ebrtohen nga kompromiset e nd\u00ebrsjella.\u201d
7. Nuk respekton kufijt\u00eb e tu
N\u00ebse ti i ke vendosur kufijt\u00eb e tu dhe partneri i shkel q\u00ebllimisht, \u00ebsht\u00eb momenti t\u00eb reflektosh thell\u00eb p\u00ebr lidhjen. Kufijt\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb nevojsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme dhe t\u00eb ekuilibruar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
8. T\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb ndihesh keq p\u00ebr vetveten
Kur ndihesh fajtor vet\u00ebm pse the nj\u00eb \u201cjo\u201d, vendose nj\u00eb kufi, apo u p\u00ebrfshive n\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00eblqen, ndoshta partneri yt po t\u00eb manipulon. N\u00ebse t\u00eb p\u00ebrmend vazhdimisht di\u00e7ka nga e kaluara, vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb fituar ep\u00ebrsin\u00eb n\u00eb debate, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb taktik\u00eb klasike e kontrollit emocional.
9. Luajn\u00eb rolin e viktim\u00ebs
Pavar\u00ebsisht se kush ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb, n\u00eb \u00e7do debat p\u00ebrfundon gjithmon\u00eb q\u00eb tjetri del si \u201ci l\u00ebnduari\u201d? Fraza si \u201cNuk mund t\u00eb besoj q\u00eb ma the k\u00ebt\u00eb\u201d apo \u201cSi munde t\u00eb m\u00eb ofendosh?\u201d jan\u00eb m\u00ebnyra p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr ta zhvendosur fajin te ty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
10. T\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00e7mon p\u00ebrmes \u201chumorit\u201d
N\u00eb fillim t\u00eb duket si shaka, por n\u00ebse partneri b\u00ebn shpesh komente tall\u00ebse apo p\u00ebr\u00e7muese ndaj teje dhe kur reagon t\u00eb thot\u00eb \u201cIsha duke b\u00ebr\u00eb shaka\u201d, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e maskuar e manipulimit. N\u00eb publik, k\u00ebto \u201cshaka\u201d t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb dukesh i\/e pasigurt dhe n\u00ebse kund\u00ebrshton, del sikur po e prish atmosfer\u00ebn. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb strategji p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb dyshosh n\u00eb vetvete, pa u dukur se ka b\u00ebr\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb madhe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u00cbsht\u00eb shpesh e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta kuptosh kur je viktim\u00eb e manipulimit emocional, sidomos kur ndodh brenda nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb sepse ndodh pik\u00ebrisht me ty. Por kur je spektator apo v\u00ebzhgues i situat\u00ebs, shenjat jan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb dukshme. N\u00ebse po e v\u00eb n\u00eb pik\u00ebpyetje marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien t\u00ebnde dhe dyshon p\u00ebr manipulim, m\u00eb posht\u00eb jan\u00eb 10 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":60724,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-60725","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lifestyle"},"yoast_head":"\n