Sa her\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb keni qen\u00eb t\u00eb detyruar t\u00eb thoni lamtumir\u00eb? Jeta \u00ebsht\u00eb ciklike dhe n\u00eb \u00e7do fillim t\u00eb ri fshihet nj\u00eb fund i domosdosh\u00ebm. \u00cbsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e natyrshme e ekzistenc\u00ebs, edhe pse shpesh dhimbja e ndarjes \u00ebsht\u00eb e madhe dhe e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u p\u00ebrballuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00ebp\u00ebr dit\u00ebt tona, lidhjet tona mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen t\u00eb ngjashme me rutinat e p\u00ebrditshme: e nj\u00ebjta or\u00eb, e nj\u00ebjta rutin\u00eb, t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebt njer\u00ebz rreth nesh. Por shpesh harrojm\u00eb t\u00eb pyesim vetveten se sa prej k\u00ebtyre lidhjeve jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta, sa prej tyre na ushqejn\u00eb shpirtin dhe sa jan\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb far\u00eb zakonie.
\u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb reflektojm\u00eb mbi njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb ndajn\u00eb jet\u00ebn me ne. Mes tyre, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, zbulojm\u00eb se ka dik\u00eb q\u00eb, megjith\u00ebse kujdeset p\u00ebr ne n\u00eb pamje t\u00eb par\u00eb, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aty kur kemi m\u00eb shum\u00eb nevoj\u00eb. Ndoshta ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ne, por nuk e tregon, apo thjesht nuk na sheh si prioritet. Kjo asimetri n\u00eb dashuri dhe afeksion \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb plag\u00eb e fshehur q\u00eb thyhet ngadal\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, kur ti jep dashuri dhe pritshm\u00ebri, por marrja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e barabart\u00eb, kjo krijon zhg\u00ebnjim, munges\u00eb besimi dhe trishtim. Kur nuk ndodh balanca, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia nuk funksionon. Dhe duhet t\u00eb jesh i fort\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb \u201cmjaft\u201d.
T\u00eb thuash lamtumir\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb. L\u00ebndon n\u00eb momentin kur e thua dhe dhemb m\u00eb shum\u00eb kur p\u00ebrpiqesh t\u00eb mos kthehesh mbrapsht. Aft\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbyllur nj\u00eb kapitull tregon forc\u00ebn dhe dinjitetin ton\u00eb. Nuk duhet t\u2019i japim dikujt tjet\u00ebr \u00e7el\u00ebsin e lumturis\u00eb son\u00eb.
Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb duhet t\u00eb l\u00ebm\u00eb pas ata q\u00eb nuk na duan ashtu si\u00e7 duam ne. Ndjenjat jan\u00eb shprehja m\u00eb e sinqert\u00eb e asaj q\u00eb jemi, dhe t\u00eb thuash lamtumir\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb rimarr\u00ebsh kontrollin mbi veten.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rrug\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn nuk ka ila\u00e7e magjike. Duhet t\u00eb jesh i gatsh\u00ebm t\u00eb b\u00ebsh at\u00eb q\u00eb nuk do, p\u00ebr t\u2019u liruar nga nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie q\u00eb t\u00eb pengon t\u00eb jesh vetvetja.
Duke q\u00ebndruar n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie asimetrike, ti pengon veten t\u00eb hap\u00ebsh zemr\u00ebn p\u00ebr dashuri t\u00eb re, p\u00ebr g\u00ebzim dhe p\u00ebr rritje. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb mbetemi t\u00eb lidhur me dhimbjen, saq\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtojm\u00eb mund\u00ebsin\u00eb e nj\u00eb lumturie t\u00eb re.
Askush nuk mund t\u00eb t\u00eb ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb thuash lamtumir\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb akt i brendsh\u00ebm, i forc\u00ebs s\u00eb vullnetit q\u00eb vjen vet\u00ebm nga ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kur thua lamtumir\u00eb nj\u00eb t\u00eb dashuri, po lufton me emocionet m\u00eb t\u00eb thella: ke nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb kuptosh se pse gj\u00ebrat nuk funksionuan, duhet t\u00eb pranosh se investimi yt nuk ka dh\u00ebn\u00eb frytet q\u00eb prisje, dhe duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrballesh me trishtimin dhe dhimbjen q\u00eb sjell ndarja.
Pas k\u00ebsaj do t\u00eb duhet t\u00eb pres\u00ebsh, t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh frym\u00eb dhe t\u00eb lejosh koh\u00ebn t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb pun\u00ebn e saj. Por n\u00eb fund, jeta do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet m\u00eb e leht\u00eb dhe m\u00eb e mir\u00eb.
Lamtumira \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb akt i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, i trishtuar dhe plot lot, por jo i urrejtjes. Urrejtja pengon mbylljen dhe rritjen. Mos e lejo zemr\u00ebn t\u00eb mbaj\u00eb urrejtje \u2013 ajo t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb peng n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kur thua lamtumir\u00eb, b\u00ebje me qet\u00ebsi, me ndjenja t\u00eb sinqerta, me kujtime t\u00eb mira dhe me respekt. Mos harro, nuk l\u00eb pas vet\u00ebm tjetrin, por edhe nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb vetes q\u00eb po ndan rrug\u00ebn me t\u00eb.
Zbraz\u00ebtia q\u00eb mbetet \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo hap\u00ebsir\u00eb e shenjt\u00eb ku fillon rritja, rind\u00ebrtimi dhe nj\u00eb jet\u00eb e re.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Sa her\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb keni qen\u00eb t\u00eb detyruar t\u00eb thoni lamtumir\u00eb? Jeta \u00ebsht\u00eb ciklike dhe n\u00eb \u00e7do fillim t\u00eb ri fshihet nj\u00eb fund i domosdosh\u00ebm. \u00cbsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e natyrshme e ekzistenc\u00ebs, edhe pse shpesh dhimbja e ndarjes \u00ebsht\u00eb e madhe dhe e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u p\u00ebrballuar. N\u00ebp\u00ebr dit\u00ebt tona, lidhjet tona mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen t\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":60987,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-60988","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lifestyle"},"yoast_head":"\n