N\u00eb epok\u00ebn e dominimit dixhital, ku ekranet jan\u00eb t\u00eb kudondodhura dhe teknologjia \u00ebsht\u00eb pothuajse e nd\u00ebrthurur me adoleshenc\u00ebn, gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb prind\u00ebr p\u00ebrballen me nj\u00eb dilem\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb: a duhet ta lejojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor\u00eb nj\u00eb celular apo ta ndalojn\u00eb at\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Megjithat\u00eb, p\u00ebrgjigjja nuk q\u00ebndron n\u00eb vet\u00eb celularin, por n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb f\u00ebmija k\u00ebrkon p\u00ebrmes tij.
Nj\u00eb ndalim i rrept\u00eb, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb mund t\u00eb d\u00ebshtoj\u00eb, por edhe ta distancoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn nga i rrituri p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb nevoj\u00eb: prindi i tij.
Pyetja, pra, ndoshta nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebse f\u00ebmija do t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb celular, por pse i duhet kaq shum\u00eb. \u00c7far\u00eb gjen n\u00eb ekran dhe \u00e7far\u00eb nuk gjen n\u00eb jet\u00ebn reale?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb synohet pajisja, ndoshta \u00ebsht\u00eb koha t\u00eb shikohet pas xhamit. Ku fshihen pasigurit\u00eb, ankthet, vetmia, por edhe mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr kontakt kuptimplot\u00eb.
Telefoni celular si simptom\u00eb, jo si shkak
Sipas Jen Lumanlan, nj\u00eb shkrimtare dhe studiuese n\u00eb psikologjin\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, p\u00ebrdorimi i tep\u00ebrt i telefonit celular \u00ebsht\u00eb shpesh simptom\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsive t\u00eb tjera, m\u00eb t\u00eb thella: ankthi, ndjenja e izolimit, p\u00ebrjashtimi social ose presioni i tep\u00ebrt p\u00ebr t\u00eb performuar n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb.
Si\u00e7 shpjegon ajo, telefoni celular shpesh funksionon si nj\u00eb mekaniz\u00ebm p\u00ebrballimi, si nj\u00eb streh\u00eb personale. Prandaj, ndalimi nuk prek rr\u00ebnj\u00ebn e problemit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebrkundrazi, ai mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrforcoj\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn e shk\u00ebputjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs nga familja dhe t\u00eb forcoj\u00eb var\u00ebsin\u00eb e tij nga bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebt ose mjetet alternative.
Paradoksi i kontrollit
Lumanlan p\u00ebrshkruan nj\u00eb reagim tipik: sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqemi t\u2019u imponojm\u00eb di\u00e7ka f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb ata rezistojn\u00eb. Shembulli nga jeta e saj personale me vajz\u00ebn e saj dhe bi\u00e7iklet\u00ebn \u00ebsht\u00eb tregues: presioni solli refuzimin.
Por kur presioni ndaloi, zgjedhja filloi t\u00eb b\u00ebhej spontanisht nga vet\u00eb adoleshentja. Motivimi i brendsh\u00ebm lind kur f\u00ebmija ndjen se ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb fjale dhe liri zgjedhjeje. Ndalimi nuk forcon vet\u00ebdijen, por vet\u00ebm reagimin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
F\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk i binden rregullave, ata i anashkalojn\u00eb.
Ndryshe nga komoditeti i duksh\u00ebm q\u00eb ofrojn\u00eb rregullat e rrepta (si \u201cpa rrjete sociale para mosh\u00ebs 16 vje\u00e7\u201d, realiteti tregon se f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk ndalojn\u00eb s\u00eb p\u00ebrdoruri teknologjin\u00eb. P\u00ebrkundrazi, ata po b\u00ebhen m\u00eb shpik\u00ebs: llogari t\u00eb fshehura, aplikacione t\u00eb kamufluara, p\u00ebrdorim i pajisjeve t\u00eb miqve.
Megjithat\u00eb, humbja e besimit n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien prind-f\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb pasoja m\u00eb serioze. Si\u00e7 thot\u00eb Lumanlan, \u201crreziku i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb se ata do ta zvog\u00eblojn\u00eb pak koh\u00ebn para ekranit, por se do t\u00eb humbasin aft\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u drejtuar tek ne kur hasin di\u00e7ka t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb n\u00eb internet\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
6 Strategji q\u00eb Ndihmojn\u00eb M\u00eb Shum\u00eb sesa Ndalimet
N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb synojm\u00eb nj\u00eb ndalim t\u00eb ekranit, mund t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb m\u00ebnyra p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs son\u00eb me teknologjin\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb kultivuar marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie dhe aft\u00ebsi kuptimplote. Ja gjasht\u00eb qasje alternative:
Shikoni pas ekranit
Pyeteni veten pse f\u00ebmija juaj kalon kaq shum\u00eb koh\u00eb n\u00eb telefonin e tij. A po shmang nj\u00eb m\u00ebsim t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb? A \u00ebsht\u00eb ekrani e vetmja m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ai mund t\u00eb ndihet shoq\u00ebrisht \u201ci p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb\u201d? N\u00ebse telefoni \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb streh\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb duhet t\u00eb shohim se \u00e7far\u00eb po e shtyn at\u00eb t\u00eb fshihet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kultivoni lidhjen, jo bindjen
Mbrojtja e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb vjen nga lidhja, jo nga kontrolli. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb pyetjeve t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithshme (\u201d Si ishte shkolla? \u201c), provoni di\u00e7ka m\u00eb thelb\u00ebsore: \u201d \u00c7far\u00eb ju b\u00ebri t\u00eb qeshni sot? \u201d Kur ju tregojn\u00eb di\u00e7ka n\u00eb telefonin e tyre, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni komente gjykuese, k\u00ebrkoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb detaje.
Vendosni kufij s\u00eb bashku
N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb vendosni ndalime, filloni nj\u00eb dialog, ndoshta duke pyetur: \u201c Si ndiheni kur kaloni shum\u00eb koh\u00eb n\u00eb Instagram ?\u201d Diskutoni ndjenjat dhe nd\u00ebrtoni nj\u00eb marr\u00ebveshje s\u00eb bashku n\u00eb lidhje me p\u00ebrdorimin e duhur. Marr\u00ebveshjet q\u00eb krijohen s\u00eb bashku kan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr gjasa t\u00eb mbahen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Identifikoni burime t\u00eb tjera stresi
Pas ekranit mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb presion p\u00ebr nota, ankth p\u00ebr performanc\u00ebn ose izolim social. Mos supozoni se gjith\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull sepse f\u00ebmija nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ankuar. K\u00ebrkoni sinjale joverbale dhe pyeteni se \u00e7far\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetjeje do t\u00eb donte nga ju.
Krijoni mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr lidhje pa rregulla t\u00eb rrepta
N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb ndaloni telefonat n\u00eb tavolin\u00eb, ftojeni f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb gatuaj\u00eb s\u00eb bashku ose t\u00eb ndaj\u00eb nj\u00eb aktivitet t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. Momentet e lidhjes nuk duhet t\u00eb ndihen si nj\u00eb barr\u00eb ose detyrim.
Respektoni ve\u00e7antin\u00eb e secilit f\u00ebmij\u00eb<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Disa f\u00ebmij\u00eb stresohen nga interneti, nd\u00ebrsa t\u00eb tjer\u00eb gjejn\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetje dhe pranim atje. Nuk ka nj\u00eb strategji t\u00eb vetme, por nevojitet individualizim dhe kuptim i personalitetit t\u00eb secilit adoleshent.
P\u00ebrfundim: Besim n\u00eb vend t\u00eb kontrollit
Telefoni celular \u00ebsht\u00eb, p\u00ebr shum\u00eb adoleshent\u00eb, nj\u00eb dritare drejt bot\u00ebs, nj\u00eb mjet lidhjeje, por edhe izolimi. N\u00ebse e heqim pa e kuptuar se p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00eb sh\u00ebrben, thjesht po e shuajm\u00eb zjarrin pa prekur shk\u00ebndij\u00ebn q\u00eb e krijoi at\u00eb. Sfida nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb kufizojm\u00eb teknologjin\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhemi ata t\u00eb rritur tek t\u00eb cil\u00ebt f\u00ebmij\u00ebt do t\u00eb drejtohen, edhe kur mjedisi online i d\u00ebmton.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
N\u00eb epok\u00ebn e dominimit dixhital, ku ekranet jan\u00eb t\u00eb kudondodhura dhe teknologjia \u00ebsht\u00eb pothuajse e nd\u00ebrthurur me adoleshenc\u00ebn, gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb prind\u00ebr p\u00ebrballen me nj\u00eb dilem\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb: a duhet ta lejojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor\u00eb nj\u00eb celular apo ta ndalojn\u00eb at\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht? Megjithat\u00eb, p\u00ebrgjigjja nuk q\u00ebndron n\u00eb vet\u00eb celularin, por n\u00eb at\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":61834,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-61835","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lifestyle"},"yoast_head":"\n