Nj\u00eb m\u00ebngjes tipik p\u00ebr shum\u00eb prej nesh nis me nj\u00eb ndjesi t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb mendim t\u00eb zakonsh\u00ebm: \u201cSikur t\u00eb mund ta zhdukja axhend\u00ebn time t\u00eb ngjeshur\u201d. P\u00ebrball\u00eb nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb detyrash e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsish, \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb ndihesh i mbingarkuar q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb dit\u00ebs. Por, sipas psikolog\u00ebve, ka nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb por jasht\u00ebzakonisht efektive p\u00ebr ta nisur dit\u00ebn me m\u00eb shum\u00eb optimiz\u00ebm dhe energji.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dhe ajo nuk k\u00ebrkon m\u00eb shum\u00eb se\u2026 nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl.
Biseda me veten ka fuqi transformuese
Ekspert\u00ebt n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e psikologjis\u00eb theksojn\u00eb se m\u00ebnyra se si flasim me veten ndikon drejtp\u00ebrdrejt n\u00eb emocionet dhe sjelljen ton\u00eb. Kjo \u201cbised\u00eb e brendshme\u201d form\u00ebson m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si i perceptojm\u00eb sfidat, v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe edhe vetveten.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psikologu i njohur Albert Bandura, i cili \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga figurat m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb psikologjis\u00eb sociale, e ka quajtur k\u00ebt\u00eb \u201cvet\u00ebefikasitet\u201d \u2013 besimi n\u00eb aft\u00ebsin\u00eb ton\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrballuar v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur q\u00ebllimet.
Fjala q\u00eb b\u00ebn ndryshimin: \u201cUn\u00eb mundem\u201d
Sipas Bandur\u00ebs dhe studiuesve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, fjala ky\u00e7e q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb ndryshim t\u00eb madh n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrditshme \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201cUn\u00eb mundem\u201d.
P\u00ebrs\u00ebritja e k\u00ebsaj fraze \u00e7do m\u00ebngjes nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb akt motivimi. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb st\u00ebrvitjeje mendore q\u00eb e m\u00ebson trurin t\u00eb shoh\u00eb pengesat si sfida t\u00eb kap\u00ebrcyeshme, jo si barriera t\u00eb pakalueshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Si ta p\u00ebrdorni n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrditshme?
Psikolog\u00ebt sugjerojn\u00eb disa m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb thjeshta p\u00ebr ta p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb praktik\u00eb n\u00eb rutin\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme:
Thuaje me z\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb p\u00ebrpara pasqyr\u00ebs, nd\u00ebrsa p\u00ebrgatitesh p\u00ebr pun\u00eb.
Shkruaje n\u00eb nj\u00eb sh\u00ebnim n\u00eb frigorifer ose mbi tavolin\u00ebn e pun\u00ebs.
P\u00ebrs\u00ebrite n\u00eb makin\u00eb gjat\u00eb rrug\u00ebs p\u00ebr n\u00eb zyr\u00eb ose nd\u00ebrsa ec\u00ebn n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes.
Pse funksionon kjo metod\u00eb?
Sipas ekspert\u00ebve, kjo fraz\u00eb forcon vet\u00ebbesimin, zvog\u00eblon ndjesin\u00eb e ankthit dhe t\u00eb stresit dhe ndihmon n\u00eb nd\u00ebrtimin e nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrimi m\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm psikologjik p\u00ebrball\u00eb sfidave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cDuke th\u00ebn\u00eb \u2018Un\u00eb mundem!\u2019 \u00e7do m\u00ebngjes, ju nuk po p\u00ebrgatiteni vet\u00ebm ta kaloni dit\u00ebn \u2013 ju po p\u00ebrgatiteni ta kap\u00ebrceni at\u00eb,\u201d thot\u00eb nj\u00eb nga psikolog\u00ebt q\u00eb mb\u00ebshtet k\u00ebt\u00eb metod\u00eb.
Pra, her\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb zgjoheni me nj\u00eb ndjesi stresi apo peshe n\u00eb shpirt, kujtoni k\u00ebt\u00eb: Fjala e vog\u00ebl \u2018Un\u00eb mundem\u2019 mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb hapi i par\u00eb drejt nj\u00eb dite m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Nj\u00eb m\u00ebngjes tipik p\u00ebr shum\u00eb prej nesh nis me nj\u00eb ndjesi t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb mendim t\u00eb zakonsh\u00ebm: \u201cSikur t\u00eb mund ta zhdukja axhend\u00ebn time t\u00eb ngjeshur\u201d. P\u00ebrball\u00eb nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb detyrash e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsish, \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb ndihesh i mbingarkuar q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb dit\u00ebs. Por, sipas psikolog\u00ebve, ka nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb por jasht\u00ebzakonisht […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":62398,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-62399","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lifestyle"},"yoast_head":"\n